Episode 205 - Jess
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Podcast Episode
Jess’s Funeral Music Playlist
Finding the Soundtrack of a Life: Reflecting on Memories with Jess on Your Funeral Music
This blog post dives into the first part of Jess's guest appearance on the podcast "Your Funeral Music." The concept of the show is to explore the idea of mortality by having guests share the songs they'd like played at their funeral.
Jess, a longtime friend of the host, Michael Venske, joins the show to share her own unique funeral playlist.
A Song From Dad
The first song on Jess's list is a surprising one: "Chantilly Lace" by The Big Bopper. Michael starts by setting the scene, explaining the song's history and chart success in 1958. However, for Jess, the song holds a deeper meaning. She reveals it was a song her father would sing to her when she was a little girl, creating a special connection between them. This heartwarming memory becomes the reason for including it on her playlist.
Looking Back with Joni Mitchell
The next song, "Both Sides Now" by Joni Mitchell, takes a more introspective turn. Jess acknowledges Joni Mitchell's influence and the song's status as a classic. However, for her, the song represents the growth and perspective gained through life experiences. She reflects on how her outlook has changed, finding beauty even in the past when things were different. Jess emphasizes that this song is "for me" - a personal reflection on her journey.
A Snapshot of Teenage Years
The next song covered is "Long Day" by Matchbox20. This selection brings Jess back to her teenage years in Minnesota. She describes the cultural shift she experienced moving from a predominantly Hispanic town to a predominantly white one. Jess credits the album, "Yourself or Someone Like You," as a snapshot of that time in her life. The song "Long Day" in particular resonates with the complexities of adolescence, feeling stuck and grappling with emotions.
A Rebellious Hymn
The next song, "Glory Hallelujah" by Frank Turner, introduces a more unconventional element to Jess's playlist. Michael explains the song's background, noting its atheist message delivered in a style reminiscent of a church hymn. Jess explains her appreciation for the song, not just for its message of human connection, but also for its rebellious nature. She jokingly expresses a desire for it to be played in a church setting, appreciating the potential for a humorous reaction. Jess also praises Frank Turner as a lyricist, highlighting his importance to both her and her husband.
A Song from a Lover
Moving to a more personal selection, Jess introduces a song written by her husband, Sean Mahoney, from his band The Trashcats. The song, "Jessica Marie," is a tribute to Jess, and she shares a particularly poignant lyric: "She'll cut you with her wit until you're choking on your pride." Jess expresses her love for this line and the song as a whole, emphasizing the importance of including a song written by a loved one on a funeral playlist. Michael agrees, highlighting the unique intimacy and power of such a gesture.
A Song of Conception
The next song, "Time For Me To Fly" by REO Speedwagon, comes with a surprising personal anecdote. Jess reveals that she was conceived at an REO Speedwagon concert in the 80s. This connection, combined with the song's popularity in her childhood home, makes it a significant part of her life's soundtrack. Jess recalls listening to the song in her parents' station wagon, creating a vivid memory associated with the music.
The Importance of Friendship
The second Frank Turner song, “If I Ever Stray,” on Jess's list is from his 2011 album England Keep My Bones, focusing on the importance of friendship. Jess explains that the song is about acknowledging the value of friends and their role in keeping her grounded. She references the lyric, "If you've got my back, I'll go on," emphasizing the support and accountability she receives from her friends. Jess also connects with the song's message about appreciating the basic necessities in life and finding joy in the simpler things. She further reflects that loved ones often see the worst of us, because we know they will still accept us.
The Sweet Spot of Relationships
The mood lightens with Jack Johnson's "Banana Pancakes." This song reminds Jess of a cherished morning ritual with her husband during their early years together. It captures the simple joy of shared moments and traditions within a relationship.
Celebrating Love and Ending on a High Note
Jess chooses a playful yet meaningful song, "Let's Do It (Let's Fall in Love)" by Cole Porter, sung by Alanis Morissette. This lighthearted celebration of love reflects a core message in Jess's life.
The final song, "There's No Such Thing" by James Darin, is a sentimental swing number that holds a special place in Jess's heart. It reminds her of watching classic 1960s beach movies with her grandmothers and her love for 1950s music and fashion. This song also ties back to her wedding, as it was the song she and her husband learned to swing dance to. Ending with this song reinforces Jess's belief in the enduring power of love.
In Conclusion
Jess's funeral playlist is a testament to the unique and personal way music shapes our lives. It becomes a powerful tool to reflect on memories, celebrate love, and cherish the bonds we forge with friends and family. As Jess says, "the most important thing" is that the music speaks to you and reflects who you are.
