Episode 108 - Bryan M

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Bryan M.’s Funeral Music Playlist

Your Funeral Music: Exploring Life’s Soundtrack with Bryan M.

Welcome to Your Funeral Music, the weekly podcast where we dive deep into the songs that individuals would like to have played at their funerals. Hosted by Michael Venske, the show invites us to reflect on mortality and the role music plays in shaping our memories and identities. This week, we meet Bryan M., a 54-year-old country music enthusiast who finds joy in the simple things—his dog Sunshine, cheering for the St. Paul Saints, and, of course, pizza (even pineapple-topped ones).

Starting with a Beautiful Perspective: Everything Is Beautiful by Jim Neighbors

Bryan’s playlist opens with Jim Neighbors’ rendition of Everything Is Beautiful, a classic originally composed by Ray Stevens in 1970. Known for his portrayal of Gomer Pyle on The Andy Griffith Show, Neighbors’ musical career added depth to his talents, and his cover of this uplifting anthem is a testament to his versatility.

When asked why he chose this song, Bryan shared, “Every day I get up and think, ‘I’m not going to be negative today.’ I look at the trees, the world around me, and just think—everything is beautiful.” Neighbors, for Bryan, was as iconic as a cherished family member. “He’s like my grandma—my number one favorite singer. He was good at everything: acting, singing, you name it.”

Bryan even brought humor into the discussion by mimicking Gomer Pyle’s signature “Golly!” in tribute to Neighbors, showcasing how music can bring lightness to life’s serious moments.

A Father’s Love: Always On My Mind by Willie Nelson

The second entry on Bryan’s playlist is Willie Nelson’s Grammy-winning rendition of Always On My Mind. First recorded by Brenda Lee in 1972, Nelson’s cover solidified the song as a heartfelt classic. For Bryan, this ballad serves as a poignant reminder of his father, Art.

“It reminds me of my dad,” Bryan reflected. “He always knew how to make you laugh when you were down. He was fun to fish with, fun to do anything with. It’s that father-son relationship.” The emotional weight of the song underscores the unspoken bond between father and son, a connection that transcends time.

Bryan also recalled attending a Willie Nelson concert a decade ago, a memory that remains vivid. “He got up close—it felt like he was going to come shake my hand,” Bryan recounted with awe. “Willie’s not just a musician; he’s an icon.”

A Journey Through the Rockies: Mountain Music by Alabama

Bryan’s love for adventure and nostalgia shines through in his next pick, Mountain Music by Alabama. Released in 1982, the track quickly became a hallmark of the band’s legacy, earning accolades and dominating the Billboard Hot Country Singles chart.

“When I was younger and living in Colorado, I always wondered what was on the other side of the mountains,” Bryan said. “Many years later, I found out—it’s New Mexico. It’s a great state, and I had so much fun there.” The song captures his sense of wonder and the beauty of exploring the unknown.

Reflecting on the Night Shift: Night Shift by the Commodores

Rounding out this segment of Bryan’s playlist is Night Shift by the Commodores. A tribute to Jackie Wilson and Marvin Gaye, this soulful hit captures the transformative quiet of the night.

Bryan’s connection to the song is deeply personal. “When I was working as a waiter and dishwasher, I always worked the night shift,” he shared. “Afterward, seeing the city lit up was magical. You need the night to appreciate the beauty of the city.”

The Commodores’ timeless anthem mirrors Bryan’s experience, reminding us of the unexpected beauty that emerges during life’s quiet moments.

Lionel Richie: "All Night Long"

After The Commodores opened the night with “Night Shift,” Lionel Richie’s solo masterpiece “All Night Long” brought the conversation to a jubilant celebration of life. Released in 1983 from Richie’s Can’t Slow Down album, the song climbed to number one on multiple Billboard charts and became a cultural hallmark, featured in events like the 1984 Summer Olympics and the Miami Vice pilot episode.

Bryan chose this song because it mirrors his approach to life and how he wants to be remembered: “All night long.” He recounted seeing Lionel Richie live at the State Fair in 2019, describing it as one of the most entertaining and emotional performances he’d ever attended. Bryan marveled at Richie’s talent, noting, “He makes you laugh, he makes you cry, but you feel good.”

The song encapsulates the essence of celebration, urging listeners to dance and enjoy life. As Richie sings, “Come join the fun, it’s a merry-go-round,” it’s a fitting anthem for anyone embracing their legacy with joy.

Journey: "Don’t Stop Believin’"

Bryan’s playlist shifted gears with Journey’s timeless anthem, “Don’t Stop Believin’.” Known for its iconic opening piano riff and inspiring lyrics, this song resonates with Bryan’s unyielding spirit. “I never stopped believing in myself,” Bryan shared, emphasizing that the song symbolizes perseverance and faith in one’s dreams.

For Bryan, this track isn’t just about his funeral; it’s a mantra for living fully and courageously. With its uplifting message and universal appeal, “Don’t Stop Believin’” has earned its place as a song that bridges generations, ensuring its meaning lingers long after the final note.

George Strait: "Here for a Good Time"

Bryan’s love for country music shines through with George Strait’s “Here for a Good Time.” Released in 2011, the song’s laid-back yet profound lyrics remind listeners that life is fleeting, urging them to savor every moment. “We’re not here forever, but we’re here for a good time,” Bryan reflected, aligning the song with his personal philosophy.

This selection captures the heart of Bryan’s funeral playlist: a celebration of life’s highs and the legacy of joy he hopes to leave behind. It’s a reminder to focus on the positive and embrace life with open arms.

John Denver: "Take Me Home, Country Roads"

Bryan then chose John Denver’s 1971 classic, “Take Me Home, Country Roads,” a heartfelt ode to nostalgia and belonging. The song has become a cultural symbol, officially recognized as one of West Virginia’s state anthems and preserved in the Library of Congress.

For Bryan, it’s about guiding loved ones back home after his funeral, symbolizing comfort, unity, and remembrance. He poignantly noted, “Whether they take the long route or the short route,” the song’s message is timeless. Its warm, reflective tone offers solace and connection, making it a fitting tribute for his life’s journey.

Bryan White: "So Much for Pretending"

Infused with tender introspection, Bryan White’s “So Much for Pretending” added a touch of vulnerability to Bryan’s playlist. With lyrics that speak to dreams and what could have been, the song explores the bittersweet aspects of life.

Bryan, ever pragmatic, humorously remarked, “Even if I was a prankster, I wouldn’t prank my funeral.” This song feels like a grounding moment amidst the celebratory tracks, offering space for reflection on life’s complexities and the poignancy of letting go.

A Mother’s Love and the Power of “Wind Beneath My Wings”

As the show draws to a close, Bryan M. reflects on his life, his loved ones, and the music that defines his journey. With poignant honesty, he dedicates the final song of his funeral playlist, "Wind Beneath My Wings" by Bette Midler, to his mother.

Bryan shares a heartfelt message to his mother, expressing gratitude and love. His choice of Bette Midler’s iconic ballad is deeply personal:

"You know, Mom, I love you very much. And I want you to hear this song too because it's going to be my funeral song."

The song itself is a moving tribute to those who lift others up selflessly, often staying in the background while allowing others to shine. As the lyrics play, Bryan’s sentiments resonate:

"Did you ever know that you're my hero?
And everything I would like to be,
I can fly higher than an eagle,
But you are the wind beneath my wings."

This timeless piece encapsulates Bryan’s gratitude for the people in his life who have supported him through thick and thin. It’s not just a farewell anthem—it’s a testament to the enduring love and sacrifices of those who shape us.

Closing Thoughts: Love and Life

As the final notes fade, host Michael Venske invites Bryan to share any last reflections. Bryan, in his genuine and straightforward way, leaves listeners with a simple yet profound takeaway:

"Just remember the two biggest words, and that's love and life, because they're both important, and they both mean a lot."

These words perfectly capture the essence of Bryan’s playlist and his philosophy: to embrace life fully, love deeply, and cherish every moment.

A Celebration of Memories

With Bryan’s thoughtful selection of songs, Your Funeral Music provided a window into the values and experiences that defined him. Each track—from the lively energy of Lionel Richie’s "All Night Long" to the bittersweet nostalgia of John Denver’s "Take Me Home, Country Roads"—painted a picture of a man who lived with passion, humor, and heart.

As host Michael Venske reminds listeners:

“Each week, we slow down to contemplate our mortality with a new guest, listening to the songs they want played at their funeral and the meaning behind that music.”

This week’s episode was more than a playlist; it was a celebration of life, love, and the memories we leave behind.

A Call to Reflect

The show concludes with an invitation to the audience. If you’ve ever wanted to curate your own soundtrack for the journey beyond, Your Funeral Music offers a platform to explore the profound connection between music and memory. As Bryan’s playlist reminds us, the songs we choose can echo our values and inspire those we leave behind.

Until next time, Frogtown, be well—and remember to live for the moments worth celebrating.